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yes, divorce


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I am getting divorced. We had a good run. We married young, took it as far as we could and now it is over. That's about all I can say for now, other than that it was a very sad and very necessary decision.

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And on a completely different note, I've been posting over at the paranormal/urban fantasy book club at the Barnes & Noble website where my book is the pick of the month.

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More later. The blog is not dead, just going through some renovations. Much like the life of the person behind it.
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nick_kaufmann
Sep. 13th, 2008 04:48 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear it. As someone who has gone through divorce himself, I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but I do wish you good luck.
suricattus
Sep. 13th, 2008 04:48 pm (UTC)
re: 1. *sympathies* Been there done that. :-(
coppervale
Sep. 13th, 2008 04:51 pm (UTC)
Hey J -

Emailed you.
eeknight
Sep. 13th, 2008 04:53 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear that and wish you smoother seas in your new life.
mmerriam
Sep. 13th, 2008 04:54 pm (UTC)
Having gone through a divorce, I know this is no easy thing or a decision made lightly. Good luck to you on the next phase of your life, and we'll be here to read your blog and chat with you when you're ready.
kaz_mahoney
Sep. 13th, 2008 04:56 pm (UTC)
I know I don't know you, but I read your blog - and your posts at Storytellers Unplugged - regularly. And love you books... You've inspired me to be a better writer and go for my dreams.

I'm very sorry you're going through this. I hope your life gains new strength from the renovations it is undergoing.
supergee
Sep. 13th, 2008 05:17 pm (UTC)
Sympathy and good luck.
cmpriest
Sep. 13th, 2008 05:19 pm (UTC)
Oh wow - that's too bad, and I'm sorry to hear it, and best of luck to you, of course.
(Sorry re: the divorce, not the B&N pick-of-the-month thing, natch.)
lagringa
Sep. 13th, 2008 05:33 pm (UTC)
I'm so very sorry and hope that you have many friends and loved ones locally for support during what must be a very difficult time, especially with small children adding to the equation.

Know that your Internet book friends are sending our best thoughts your way.

Please be good to yourself.
stephanieburgis
Sep. 13th, 2008 05:44 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear this. Having gone through a divorce, I vividly remember the agony of it - but also know that I ended up stronger and happier in the long run because of it, and that's been true for many of my friends as well. Good luck getting through the hard times.
bevhale
Sep. 13th, 2008 05:45 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear this. I am also a veteran of the the divorce wars. Is there anything I can do to help? I can tell you the rules for during and 6 mo. after the divorce-

no other life changing events (do not join a convent, get remarried, join the army, etc).
no tatoos or piercings - nothing permanent for 6 mo
you can have the divroce haircut or hair color
nothing that requires "film at eleven"
You will be crazy for at least 6 mo after the divorce (No matter how amiable it is, no matter how much you may want it).
Your emotions will change radically over the course of 1/2 an hour, let alone 24.
It's ok to feel angry, sad and ok all at the same time.
Just remind yourself that you are temporarily crazy and that it's ok.
It will get better. I promise.

I can also teach you to curse in about 15 languages if you need it (I used that regularly).

wishing you all the best.
misplacedmind
Sep. 15th, 2008 04:29 am (UTC)
Hey, I'm also going through this right now, and I wanted to say thank you so much for this comment to moschus. That all seems like very good advice, and I will be keeping it in mind. Thank you.
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gaaneden
Sep. 13th, 2008 06:16 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry for your pain. I wish I could help.
bondgwendabond
Sep. 13th, 2008 06:16 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear this, and wish you much speed coming out the other side of it.
ellameena
Sep. 13th, 2008 06:24 pm (UTC)
I am deeply sorry to hear this. I appreciate that you are being so respectful of your marriage, your husband, and your children at a difficult time, and I hope there are happier times ahead for all of you.
dsgood
Sep. 13th, 2008 07:55 pm (UTC)
Sympathies, good wishes, and hope for the future.
(Anonymous)
Sep. 13th, 2008 08:29 pm (UTC)
hmmm
My take on this is it was E. I bet you guys got near the 10 year mark. And E didnt like the ramifications of his prenuptial agreement going void at the 10 year mark.
moschus
Feb. 1st, 2009 07:02 pm (UTC)
Re: hmmm
There was no pre-nuptial agreement.
castellucci
Sep. 13th, 2008 10:20 pm (UTC)
sending you love.
raecarson
Sep. 13th, 2008 11:21 pm (UTC)
Decisions like these suck, but when they're the right ones, things really are good on the other side. I wish you the very best.
dianeofnka
Sep. 13th, 2008 11:35 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear this, and I hope that it works out well for all of you when all is said and done.
(Anonymous)
Sep. 14th, 2008 02:55 am (UTC)
divorce
Justine--I am so very very sorry--I know your world must be turned upside down. Don't underestimate the support you have online--we are real people and we care! With your intelligence, wit and skills, I am sure, ultimately, that you will be the PHOENIX rising from the ashes!!!!! Your fan, Janet
(Anonymous)
Sep. 14th, 2008 06:10 am (UTC)
Just breathe
Momentous pressure, pre-midlife indiscretion, accelerated in the exhalted halls of success. The company kept, the temptations abound, many ports available for he to weather such storms.

Forgiveness is key, we men are so weak. Time weathers the bonds, the commitment and vows. Pain is essential, inescapable and bleak. Tears for sweet Justine, we weep for you now.

Your brand shines bright, your fans shall adore, the magnificent return you'll make from this storm.

We love you, adore you and cherish your tomes. Keep blogging, keep writing, keep burying the bones.

Forgive him in time, forgive him with wine. The world now embraces Justine Divine.
xterminal
Sep. 14th, 2008 05:03 pm (UTC)
Oh, honey, I am so sorry.
cenee
Sep. 14th, 2008 07:26 pm (UTC)
I've been there and done that and though it can be difficult it does get better. *hugs*
relby
Sep. 14th, 2008 11:41 pm (UTC)
That SUCKS big time. Hang in there--you have a lot of people rooting for you!
misplacedmind
Sep. 15th, 2008 04:44 am (UTC)
I send you massive ***huggggsss*** and commiseration... and doesn't it all feel like any moment you're going to wake up from an absurdist dream? I have no idea when or if I'll be able to blog about my own situation... but I'm here, in cyberland, if you ever need to rage.
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About Me

I'm the author of three published novels: the dark fantasies BLOODANGEL and LORD OF BONES (Roc/Penguin) and the YA supernatural thriller UNINVITED (MTV/Simon&Schuster). I also have stories in the MAMMOTH BOOK OF VAMPIRE ROMANCE 2 and ZOMBIES: ENCOUNTERS WITH THE HUNGRY DEAD. I'm working on a psychological thriller called THE DECADENTS. I am divorced, with sons, and live in Bel Air.

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