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My triplets turned 3 today, and we had a little party for them at a children's restaurant called Giggles 'n' Hugs ("That's kind of a creepy name for a place," observed my ex)*. The highlight was Scott Land, or as I so brilliantly called him, "the puppet dude" (as in, "Is the puppet dude here yet?", asked while he was standing beside me. So not my finest moment). I first saw his act at a mall in Century City and learned that he worked with the marionettes on the movie Team America. He's a great example of something I believe strongly but not sure I can express -- something about how entertainment should be aimed at children without condescending or pandering to them in any way, or making it a point to teach them Moral Lessons, how it can be clever and sophisticated and artful enough to engage adults. One of the triplets and his big brother ran backstage after the show was over, the younger one signing "More!" while the older one asked Scott questions and investigated the marionettes as they returned to the trunk.
*Amended to clarify that my ex thinks Giggles 'n' Hugs is a great name and was actually referring to the name that he plans to assign his own chain of children's restaurants** (once he's finished with rockets and electric cars and stuff), Tickles 'n' Bugs, which, as he points out to me, "is a literally creepy name."
**This, in case clarification is needed, is also a joke, although frankly I think Tickles 'n' Bugs has potential.
I wanted to post a picture of one of the marionettes -- they are exquisite creations -- but my technology is not cooperating, so here instead is a pic of me about to head out to the OC for a friend's birthday dinner. Not the same as a cool puppet, I know, but I like the reflections in my sunglasses.

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Tomorrow will continue some thoughts about writing from previous entries. In the meantime I give you the opening paragraphs of the first draft of my novel-in-progress THE DECADENTS:
Yesterday I read through Angelina’s letters and journals again. Some of those passages I know by heart, and even the ones written in her most illegible scrawl -- black ink pressed deep in the page, spiking and jagged --have decoded themselves, if not always into individual words then at least their general meaning. Afterwards I sat on the deck with a blanket wrapped round my shoulders and watched the dark come down on the mansion-studded valley. Coyotes yipped and called somewhere deep in the shadows of the pines, the eucalyptus. It’s a wild, lonely, beautiful sound, and I can’t think of Los Angeles without thinking of the coyotes. I called Gabe on my cell and told him I was going to write this book. His response flickered in and out – it wasn’t a good connection – but I heard him wish me luck, and also the irony in his voice.
I have no more respect for secrecy. Someone could argue that these are not my secrets to tell. But now I look back and see how it was the invisible, the ghosts of the unsaid, that extracted a price from each of us, and so in that sense the secrets belong to us all.
Gabe says he’s told me everything. He even remembers – or claims to remember – that when the girl first entered his life (all our lives), he was asleep in an all-white luxury hotel room dreaming about fire.
My triplets turned 3 today, and we had a little party for them at a children's restaurant called Giggles 'n' Hugs ("That's kind of a creepy name for a place," observed my ex)*. The highlight was Scott Land, or as I so brilliantly called him, "the puppet dude" (as in, "Is the puppet dude here yet?", asked while he was standing beside me. So not my finest moment). I first saw his act at a mall in Century City and learned that he worked with the marionettes on the movie Team America. He's a great example of something I believe strongly but not sure I can express -- something about how entertainment should be aimed at children without condescending or pandering to them in any way, or making it a point to teach them Moral Lessons, how it can be clever and sophisticated and artful enough to engage adults. One of the triplets and his big brother ran backstage after the show was over, the younger one signing "More!" while the older one asked Scott questions and investigated the marionettes as they returned to the trunk.
*Amended to clarify that my ex thinks Giggles 'n' Hugs is a great name and was actually referring to the name that he plans to assign his own chain of children's restaurants** (once he's finished with rockets and electric cars and stuff), Tickles 'n' Bugs, which, as he points out to me, "is a literally creepy name."
**This, in case clarification is needed, is also a joke, although frankly I think Tickles 'n' Bugs has potential.
I wanted to post a picture of one of the marionettes -- they are exquisite creations -- but my technology is not cooperating, so here instead is a pic of me about to head out to the OC for a friend's birthday dinner. Not the same as a cool puppet, I know, but I like the reflections in my sunglasses.
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Tomorrow will continue some thoughts about writing from previous entries. In the meantime I give you the opening paragraphs of the first draft of my novel-in-progress THE DECADENTS:
Yesterday I read through Angelina’s letters and journals again. Some of those passages I know by heart, and even the ones written in her most illegible scrawl -- black ink pressed deep in the page, spiking and jagged --have decoded themselves, if not always into individual words then at least their general meaning. Afterwards I sat on the deck with a blanket wrapped round my shoulders and watched the dark come down on the mansion-studded valley. Coyotes yipped and called somewhere deep in the shadows of the pines, the eucalyptus. It’s a wild, lonely, beautiful sound, and I can’t think of Los Angeles without thinking of the coyotes. I called Gabe on my cell and told him I was going to write this book. His response flickered in and out – it wasn’t a good connection – but I heard him wish me luck, and also the irony in his voice.
I have no more respect for secrecy. Someone could argue that these are not my secrets to tell. But now I look back and see how it was the invisible, the ghosts of the unsaid, that extracted a price from each of us, and so in that sense the secrets belong to us all.
Gabe says he’s told me everything. He even remembers – or claims to remember – that when the girl first entered his life (all our lives), he was asleep in an all-white luxury hotel room dreaming about fire.

Comments
Awwwwwww
Happy birthday to them!
A lovely picture of you :D
Hehe - reminds of the name of daycare centre in Family Guy - Hugs & Kisses (The Good Kind) ;-)
Jeff P.
And here I am feeling overwhelmed with 1 child. Sigh.
On another note -- when I was pregnant with twins I kept telling people, "I don't know how a woman can do triplets. I can't possibly imagine doing triplets", etc. And then I got pregnant with triplets. 'Overwhelmed' is the word...but I wouldn't have it any other way.
Edited at 2009-08-11 02:07 am (UTC)
Just curious...when you were planning your second pregnancy did you expect only one or did you think your chances of a repeat set of twins were possible? You sound like the most fertile woman! (Hope this isn't inappropriate on your blog)...
I appreciate what you say about motherhood.
When I was planning the second IVF pregnancy I knew twins were a possibility and was prepared for that. Triplets took me by surprise (the doctor was also shocked) and, yes, required some mental and emotional adjusting.
First one, then two, then three, which is even more amazing...
I fully agree with your comment about mothers in this country being regarded as the beginning and the end of everything, although much of that has to do with our society having become so portable (moreso than any other, if I remember correctly). You can't have much of a village or sustaining support system when you are moving every three to five years and you live a thousand miles or so away from any family (unless you are able to pay for it). And you tire of recreating community for yourself over and over --and you resist attachment b/c you are braced for the end of it. I am raising four children in this unnatural condition, without grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, nannies or housekeepers. Your comments resonate with me. Thanks.
2) No, people don't give me a hard time, except once in a while on this blog, and that has been mostly divorce-related.
3) I rarely write about my children. My family life became a bit more public when my ex-husband and I divorced. My ex is extremely successful and very well-known, at least in certain circles, and garners a fair bit of publicity (he is the subject of a feature story in upcoming issue of New Yorker, for example, and I have no doubt whatsoever the article will mention the five kids). Because the information is out there anyway, I've been a bit more open in this blog.
4) My first son died at 10 weeks. We dealt with it by trying to get pregnant again (which I regard as one of the smartest things I've ever done in my life). I have compromised eggs, so IVF became necessary. With IVF, multiples tend to happen. We did not intend to have five kids so soon -- the triplets were our attempt at one girl -- but the unborn babies were strong, healthy, developing well, and we had the resources to take care of them, so under those circumstances we rejected the idea of selective termination. So far so good: they are happy, healthy and thriving.
Also, I'm 37 (or will be in a few weeks), if that helps your understanding any (I am aware that I can look much younger).
Edited at 2009-08-11 04:20 am (UTC)
And out of curiosity, did you ever get the e-mail I sent through your Web site about a writing group visit? I know it's probably a ridiculous idea, but I at least wanted you to know I enjoyed your books. :)